The heavens declare the glory of God (Psalm 19:1)
Whatever you face, God will make a way to take you through it!
God’s word stands true and he fulfills every promise despite the problems we face. This world is not our final destination but only a place of preparation for what is to come. In this life, we are going to endure hardships of every kind until Jesus returns to make all things new. He has defeated death and made us victors in all that we endure. No matter how fierce the battle, believers cannot be defeated by the fiery slings and arrows of the enemy. I trust in the promises of Christ. He is my stronghold and my very present help in time of need. I believe in prayer and know that my God hears my every plea.
With all that said, I have to share with you that my faith has been severely tested and stretched to the limit during these past months as I face a powerful battle in my life. There are times when I feel completely overwhelmed. Yet no matter how weary I may be, God has given me the grace to endure. I will never give up or lose hope. All the trials that I have faced in my life only taught me that God has been my help through every single one of them. He sees my tears and knows my pain. He is not far away leaving me alone. Scripture says, ” The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit”(Psalm 30:18). I don’t have to see Christ or feel him to know that he is my hope and strength to get me through anything I must endure in this world.
Sadly, for quite some time I have been living with the pain of a failing marriage. Despite doing all that I could, it is apparent that I cannot change the outcome. Even though I have been praying night and day for God’s strength and guidance, things have gotten worse. All I can do now is to continue to pray and surrender my will to Christ. He alone knows the outcome. It breaks my heart to say that I cannot make someone stay and love me when he has chosen not to. I feel betrayed and hurt facing an uncertain future. But as difficult as this has been for me, I know that God still has a plan for my life.
I want to make it very clear that without any doubt, God has authority over all that we face. He can and will do mighty things to help his people and that is why I always advise those struggling in failing marriages to pray and not give up. I am still praying for all who are going through troubled marriages. We have good reason to hope that God can reach the wayward or unbelieving spouse. Sometimes he takes them to the end of their own strength so that they have nowhere to turn but to him. However, I know that it is hard to understand the times when that doesn’t happen. It does not mean that God doesn’t care. The truth is that he cares much and he grieves with us in our pain. Unfortunately, we are living in a lost and perishing world and the enemy has blinded most to his schemes. His main target is to break up homes and destroy families evidenced by the fact that over half of all marriages end in divorce. What a sad statistic that is. Yet God still has the power to give you a future with hope.
When you do all that you can and it seems like you are being hard pressed on every side, remember that in Christ, you cannot be crushed. He will take your broken heart and your fallen dreams and use them to build you up for his purpose. It may not seem like you will ever recover from your pain or that your tears will never end – but that is not true. King David wrote in Psalm 69 “Save me, O God! For the waters have come up to my neck, I sink in the deep mire, where there is no foothold; I have come into deep waters and the flood sweeps over me. I am weary with my crying out; my throat is parched. My eyes grow dim with waiting for my God.” And yet David kept trusting his God even when all hope seemed lost.
Our problems and struggles do not dictate our future. It is planned out by Christ Jesus who will not fail to help those who trust in him. I know that my pain has no power to destroy the hope I have through Christ. Despite what I face in this life, my God will always be bigger.
And then, in spite of all I have been going through, I recently discovered that my one cat, Bella, has cancer. I am always rescuing animals and my pets are like family to me. I am tearful and saddened by this diagnosis for I know that she does not have long to live. In a time when my heart is broken over my marriage, this just added more pain to my life. Is the will of Christ even in the death of a pet I love? The answer is “Yes!” Christ has a plan for all things! Nothing happens apart from his knowledge and permission. Each day, the enemy wants me to believe that God has failed me or that he doesn’t care. He tries to convince me that I am alone. Yet, I know by faith that I will never be alone. Psalm 23 reminds us that, “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me.” All of our enemies, our struggles and our pain has been rendered powerless to destroy us. Christ has a way to heal and make us whole no matter how broken we are. I trust him. My Bella may be gone soon, but I know that even then that Christ will be with me and help me through it.
My friends, I pray you understood all that I said. No one wants to go through a divorce but unfortunately that is not always a choice. If you get to that point, you need to draw even closer to Christ and rely on his strength to get you through. All of your trials and struggles were known to God even before you were born. He can use all things and cause them to be used for good and the purpose he has for your life. Nothing is impossible for him. If you can keep trusting him despite your struggle, you will not be conquered. You will have the victory in everything even through your pain.
I am praying for all who are facing a similar situation and don’t know where to turn. You future is uncertain and it is difficult to understand how you are going to ever get through this. It is only in knowing your God that you can have peace despite your heartache. When people ask me what they can do for me during this painful time, I ask for their prayers. I know that this battle is going to be tough but it is not my own strength that is going to take me through it. I take hope from Hebrews 4:16, “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need”.
God’s promises of mercy and grace are new to us every morning. He does not fail us and he never leaves us. No matter what trouble you have in life, there is always going to be the help that you need through Christ.
My dear friends, I pray for all of you who come to this site. I thank you for your understanding during this difficult time in my life and I appreciate those who are praying for me. Because I belong to Jesus, I will not drown in my tears. He will help me.
I am humbled that God continues to give me his messages to write. God bless you and please keep his truth in your heart. There is no pain that you have that the touch of his hand cannot heal.
UPDATE ON MY CAT, BELLA
As I wrote, I had found out during the time of my divorce that my cat, Bella, had bi-lateral kidney cancer and would not live long. Kidney cancer like hers kills quickly. I would hold her every night and pray that God would let me keep her just two years longer. I was in the middle of a painful divorce. I was watching my marriage die and at the same time I was watching Bella die. I kept praying but I trusted that God could take me through it. No pain we suffer is beyond God’s ability to help. I knew that and I believed that but I prayed for more time with Bella.
Sadly, my divorce went through. That does not mean God did not answer my prayers. It just meant that in this fallen world, he was allowing my spouse to have free will in his choices. It was tough on me but I never felt that Christ was not with me. I surrendered my brokenness to him daily. He was all I had and he was more than enough. I was not destroyed but made stronger for what I endured.
The strange part is that after I wrote this article, my Bella started to eat again. She gained weight and seem happy and comfortable. Each morning I would go see how she was doing. Each morning I would praise Christ. Two years after my divorce, Bella became ill again and died peacefully in my arms. As sad as I was to lose her, I knew that Christ was the one who gave her the two years more of life that I asked. The Vet said he could offer no explanation as to how she lived that long with cancer. I knew exactly Who allowed her to live two additional years.
The bible says all of our days are numbered before one of them come to be. Jesus said not a sparrow falls to the ground apart from the will of the Father. God has a will and a plan not only for us but for all that he has created. Cancer could not take my Bella until Christ ordained it to happen. He is merciful and he knows what is best. Even the sting of death is under the authority of Christ who conquered its power. He will either heal you or allow you to die to be with him. Either way, if you are a believer, you can’t lose. He has the perfect plan.
Take heart, dear friends. This message is meant for you. I am praying for all who come to this site. You are loved so much more than you could ever know.
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November 4, 2012 at 10:34 pm
charles woodruff
Marianne, I see you just entered this today. I read it, and it is very touching and sad. You know that I have been praying for you daily. As you have said, God has not deserted you. He will never do that. He is going to see you through this pain. He loves you, and cares what happens to you. Just the fact that you wrote this shows that strength is triumphing over the problems. You already know that God is faithful. I just want to encourage you and tell you that i am with you and will continue praying for you. Keep being faithful. All who read this will see that God will prevail. God bless and keep you. Your friend, Charles.
November 4, 2012 at 10:42 pm
Marianne Lordi
Thank you for your encouragement, Charles. I am so blessed that you have been praying for me. I am broken. This has been the toughest thing I have ever faced and I could not do it without Christ and all of his people that he brings to my side to help me through it. God bless you, my brother.
November 4, 2012 at 10:48 pm
S.L.I.K. (S4C)
Thank you for sharing I recently went through a disrespectful situation when my soon to be wife’s parents got word that we’re getting married this month; after knowing them for 10+ years and for their trues colors about me and their daughter displayed after this many years later really hurt I & Belle. (Their Daughter) Your post sparked hope in me that God has a plan through all this as well our backs without failure on His end. 🙂
God Bless,
Mike,
November 4, 2012 at 10:48 pm
Nancy
Hi Marianne dear, I wanted to hug you as tight as I could, sit down with you all day, rub your back for ease but since I can’t my prayers will do more for you. I know the pain when a man vowed before God to love you will now say hey, wake up! though how much you pray there is what we call reality I will never ever be back to you. Huhuhu I must be crying now but behold, those words has no more sting on me. Smile! Consider it pure joy. God loves you more than anyone here on earth could. Can that man give you an air to breath? if not, then? *.*
November 4, 2012 at 11:02 pm
annawood
Dear Marianne,
Your words are always a balm and a comfort to me as I know they are to many. I am praying for you tonight just as I always do. Please know you are loved by the Father, by others and by me. God bless and keep and comfort you my precious friend~ Anna
November 4, 2012 at 11:04 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Mike, I am glad you stopped by. Charist always has a plan for your good when you trust in him. We can either look at our problem or look toward our God. The truth is that no matter what we face – it is all under the authority of God who is working things out for our good and his glory. He is not going to fail. We read in God’s word that tears last for a night but joy comes in the morning. That means that God has a time for all of our struggles to end. He will give us rest from our pain but we must trust his timing and his ways. God bless you, dear brother. I was so happy to hear from you.
November 4, 2012 at 11:06 pm
Lyn Leahz
I know what you are going through. God bless you and I will pray for you.
November 4, 2012 at 11:08 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Nancy, I really appreciate you. I thank you for your prayers. This is such a painful time for me right now. It helps to know that there are friends who care. Bless you, Nancy! It means a lot to me that you took the time to encourage me.
November 4, 2012 at 11:11 pm
Marianne Lordi
Thanks Lyn. Your friendship is a blessing to me. It was painful to have to write this post. I appreciate your kindness and your prayers.
November 4, 2012 at 11:20 pm
Lyn Leahz
Yes, I just sent you a painful to write email 🙂 God bless you! I do understand.
November 4, 2012 at 11:20 pm
Lyn Leahz
And your friendship is a blessing to me as well. I tried to write that, but I hit something and the message posted before I was finished!
November 4, 2012 at 11:29 pm
time2stand
Marianne,
Hello sister. You posts are alwasy a blessing. I know that your situation is not what you would like, but I praise God that you know your focus, articulate the truth and encourage others.
It has been a pleasure and a blessing working with you on writing projects in the past. Lord willing, maybe even more in the future. I hope to post on my facebook, twitter, etc.
Peace and blessings,
Jeremy Strang
http://www.time2stand.com
November 4, 2012 at 11:32 pm
annawood
Dear Marianne,
Sorry…I didn’t get to finish writing what I wanted to because one of the little ones came in needing me. I am so sorry about Bella. She’s beautiful. You’ve suffered so much but your faith remains strong…that is a testimony to God’s grace. You are such a great example to so many. Please know that I am here praying for you. God is with you, dear one. ~ Anna
November 4, 2012 at 11:56 pm
Karen Daniels
Although I am not going through a marriage I am dealing with something in which I just put it in God’s hands, I will admit I blame myself for this failure that happened to me behind my own actions even though I was the one who should have came out victorious. I look to it as God’s disipline & I hope something positive can come out of all of this. I am sorry to hear all you are going through right now, but as we know God is with us through it all as he tells his children I will never leave you or forsake you. stay strong : )
November 5, 2012 at 12:10 am
Marianne Lordi
Anna, thank you for always standing with me in my trials. You are a true friend and sister. This is so hard on me now but I am learning each day to trust that God will provide for my needs. You and I have talked about the faithfulness of God. He sees where we are, my sister. He still has the plan to give us hope.
November 5, 2012 at 12:12 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Jeremy, I appreciate your encouraging words and your friendship. It has blessed me to work with you on time2stand. God is using you in a mighty way, Jeremy. I am so proud of you.
November 5, 2012 at 12:15 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Karen, if you have surrendered your struggle to God, then he will help you through it no matter what your weakness. Thank you for stopping and commenting on my message. I truly appreciate your reminder that God will never forsake us in any of our troubles. That is what I am focusing on. God bless you, dear sister.
November 5, 2012 at 12:40 am
Jackson Ng
Dear Marianne,
Your blog posting has always inspire me even in this tough time that you are facing. You are always full of courage & strength, your faith in the Lord has given me strength to endure the current tough situation. I will keep you in my regular prayer although I am on the other half of the Earth (Singapore).
Months ago I came upon your blog. I have a autistic son now 7 years old. It is a tough battle in life with some much stress trying to coach & care for my son. He will even try to beat me when I stop him from continuingly watching cartoon movies & etc. To make thing worst, I actually given up a comfortable pay job & move back from India oversea posting back home to start my own business. Business has not pick up very well & payment was slow, with the tight cash flow even having a cup of coffee seems to be a luxury. With long working hours till 2~3am after putting my son to sleep, I hardly have enough of rest & headache is a daily symptoms. With frequent delivery of heavy goods, my back always strained regularly. I literally have to crawl up to work everyday. My wife is also highly stressed because of the current situation. She had given me lots of pressure & our relationship is also highly tensed. There are so many challenges that I need answers from the Lord and somehow I came upon your blog. Your message sound extremely refreshing and I believe that the blessing came from Jesus. Beyond words, it is very comforting & assuring. I truly felt the presence of Jesus in ever tough situation. Your message never fail to deliver His love for us. I belive in Christ and our trial that we are facing will be over. Thank you for your strong faith. I pray that we will move forward boldly with Jesus. Lets’ praise Him wherever it takes us. The storm may be choppy & sea may be rolling, but Jesus is on our ark. Amen!
November 5, 2012 at 12:42 am
Patrice
You are an Awesome woman Marianne and I look forward to every post you make. We are both going through similar situation but I draw strength from Jesus and your wonderful, inspiring post as well. I just said a prayer for you and I pray to God that the outcome of your situation is in Your favor and you get every blessing you deserve and that you find peace as well. You deserve nothing but the best and I’m sure that’s what you’ll receive . Each post you write speaks to me , Thank you so much 🙂
November 5, 2012 at 12:51 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Jackson, I can’t tell you how much your words mean to me. I am feeling so low about myself and you just lifted my spirit. It is so good that you are blessed by the messages that God gives me to write. I hope you understand that even in your struggle, God has the plan and it is a good one. He isn’t going to let you wear out from your battles. I know it is tough now, but if you will keep your eyes and your trust in Christ, he knows how to give you peace in spite of what you are going through. My heart is with you, Jackson. I will be keeping you in prayer. and I will pray for your son. That is a difficult situation you have to deal with his needs. I know that the times are tough all over this world, but we serve a God who can change our situation with just a word and make it all work out. I will be praying for you, dear friend. Keep reading your bible each morning to get the strength you need to face your day. And please keep in touch to let me know how you are doing. I am here for you, dear brother, and I care.
November 5, 2012 at 12:55 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Patrice, I can’t tell you how I struggled with writing about the problems in my marriage. It made me feel like such a failure – even though I honestly tried to do everything to make it better. Your comment brought me peace, Patrice. I had asked God to let this message reach those who need to hear it. You made me feel like it was okay that I wrote of my pain. I am so humbled that you prayed for me. Thank you, my sister. You showed me the love of Christ and I truly thank you!
November 5, 2012 at 2:00 am
Doreen
Thank you for sharing Marianne. I’m on the other side of the coin. My husband has left me with a window to come back into the marriage if I really want it – regardless of what I’ve done wrong. I’m praying for clarity from the Holy Spirit and hope that I’m guided into the right direction, His will, not mine. Do you think the Lord wants true love for everyone? At least for the ones who ask in His name? You give so many people comfort and hope – God Bless you and He will indeed.
November 5, 2012 at 2:49 am
Eugenia
Marianne, Marianne, Marianne strong woman.!!!! Let me give a hug. I always like to work up and find your post in email box but the one of today destroyed my heart. When you talk about trials and being strong in Jesus ASK ME because I have been there. After I left my home Rwanda after losing all, my family killed, my home destroyed I come to live in Uk to search for at least peace. After having 2 kids my husband decided to abandon me. That was knife through my heart. Despite what we went through together he decided to say that he did not love me any more. While I was struggling the only family I have left back home “MUM” was diagnosed with cancer.. then I lost my job….. .It is hard to explain how I felt. Treatment there were expensive and my husband did not want to hear about it.
Having 2 young kids made turning fully to God. He took me through every single day. My mum past away after 1 year of battle all in Jesus name. I kept on praying for my husband who did not want to talk to me nor to kids. In the name of Jesus and POWER of my Lord my husband come home after 2 and half. He was humble and broken financially. what he wanted to do is to have more kids because being away from children made home realise how he loves being a father. unfortunately we had so many miscarriages and we give up trying.
We got re married last month, I have never see us happy like we are before. our relationship is so strong, we trust each other, we do everything together. We feel nothing can destroy us again.
My friend be strong, God is with you.” He will never abandon your nor forsake you”. Just trust in Him. Take care my friend and God bless you.
November 5, 2012 at 6:08 am
titus2mum
Dear Marianne, I have been so moved and touched by each message you’ve shared ever since I first discovered your site. The fragrance of Christ permeates each message as you’ve shared life-giving hope and truth from God’s Word! I’ve shared the messages with loved ones going through tough times, and they’ve been so encouraged, too.
Words seem inadequate at times, and this is one of those times, but since that’s all we have right now, let me tell you that your faithfulness to be a yielded vessel of the Lord has blessed us so much, and I am praying for you to be continually strengthened, comforted, and filled with the supernatural peace and wisdom of the Lord, and that He will provide your every need!
No matter what the circumstances: “For this we have Jesus.”
With love and hugs from your sister in Christ,
Tamara
November 5, 2012 at 6:17 am
Cindy French
Oh dear heart! I am so very sorry! but do you know? I know exactly how you feel? Here is another example of the Lord’s letting me go through an experience and then bringing someone to me believer or not that is having the same experience. for it is only someone who has gone through the very same circumstances that would understand the feelings that you are experiencing. I definitely picked up on all of them, Marianne as I have felt everyone of those feelings. But II Cor1:4 says now YOU will have more than just empathy for the one who comes to you, you will truly understand the rejection feelings, the unworthiness feelings-all untrue and Satan’s lie, but until you yourself has experienced it, you don’t know that you are going to. As a result, I believe that your ministry will be even more powerful, reach even more people–but it is so hard to go through that valley. It has been 34 almost 35 years since I went through it and If I were to allow it, those feelings could come coursing up through me in a minute. I believe that this is because it is the most personal of all “sins against us”. It is not that I have not forgiven the man. I have. I truly have and wish him happiness. And I am so fortunate that my God saw my future and said you made a wrong choice, Cindy. It is going to hurt to make it right. But for your own good and for your life, I must let him go. but in doing so you will have the freedom to love again and this time you will make the right choice and have a husband who truly loves and cherishes you as I meant for marriage to be.Next May we will celebrate 35 years married. I am only telling you this to show you that the Lord our God can take the very worst, most broken heart and mend it and make it love again. it is too soon to contemplate, but YOU need to know that this is not a reflection on you as Satan would like it to be. All who follow you know what a Godly woman you are, a Proverbs 31 woman to be sure. This is his loss-NOT yours in the long run. Ask the Lord God to heal your hear where he has broken it. He will do it because He loves you. Oh my dear one. I am so very sorry you have to walk this road.
I hate the roads I have to walk as well. I am so hopeful He will come soon. I am getting tired but I know that He is able to keep that which is committed to Him against that day. with much love and prayers, Cindy
November 5, 2012 at 6:21 am
Allyouneed
May almighty God continue to strengthen you. You have said it all sister and I am praying for you. And my prayer is that you shall continue to do what The Lord has planted you in planet earth to do, because you have been a source of blessing to many. God is faithful he will never leave you neither forsake you. It is indeed well with you. May the peace of God be upon you. Remain strong in him.
November 5, 2012 at 6:51 am
Alan W
Dear Marianne, you are precious to God, you are certainly one special sister to me, even thought we were never meet, but I felt I’m close to you because of our Lord Jesus. Your blog has helped me found comfort and peace in God while I was in my lowest point in my life, I’m sure I’m not the only one who was encouraged by your words. Don’t feel that you are alone, just take a look at the visitors map on the left, look at the red dots, we all pray for you my sister. May you find comfort and strength in our heavenly Father.
November 5, 2012 at 6:56 am
Anonymous
oh marianne, im praying for you
November 5, 2012 at 7:43 am
Cindy French
Amen and Amen to your support of Marianne.
November 5, 2012 at 8:06 am
Mike
Very sorry to hear.
November 5, 2012 at 8:38 am
Glenn
Dear Marianne,
I always sensed that you were facing a battle but never knew what it was. Your recent blog certainly shows your immense faith in Christ despite what you are going through. I know that Christ will always be there to take you through it but I pray that he will bring you some Joy to compensate for those tears.
November 5, 2012 at 10:15 am
Susan
Dearest Marianne,
Our Lord Jesus Christ is with you. You have been and continue to be such an encouragement to many people all around the world. Our Father, God, is a mighty God, He knows the end from the beginning and He takes care of us with such loving care and He is indeed the Father of all comfort.
He assures us in His word, Isaiah 46:4 that “Even to your old age and gray hairs I am He, I am He who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.” This is God, our Abba Father, taking responsibility over us and assuring us that He will under no circumstances abandon or leave us. What a mighty God you serve Marianne! What a mighty, mighty, mighty God! A God who loves us, who sees us, hears our every plea and cry. What a wonderful Savior!
And now just a little while, just a little while and these light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
Marianne, I stand with you in prayer. I know and believe that God has a wonderful plan over your life, we will keep our eyes on Him.
November 5, 2012 at 10:56 am
kathy
marianne, your journey is so familar i lost my husband of 32 years 2 1/2 years ago after his passing i also lost 3 of our dogs within the year to cancer i really felt that i could not take anymore. the good lord let me know where i was and he did not let me slip into the darkness even though the enemey wanted me to stay there. i have prayed for everyone that has endured pain no matter how small that the lord will go and comfort them as he has done and is still doing in me. i pray that he will heal your heart and thank you for your sharing your pain i have shed tears for every day for 2 1/2 years but they are tears of compassion for the love of all i have thanks to lord jesus
November 5, 2012 at 11:11 am
Tracy
Dear Marianne,
I read your story and my heart breaks for you , but like you i have had to indure losing my husband and 6 yrs old step-daughter through divorce, i have never felt such pain and grief over a loss like this in my life, but through the midst of it all I gave my life to Christ 11/2009 , So thru the grieving and loss i was also trying to learn to have faith in God. But i can say that was almost 5 yrs ago when he left and met another women, Im still single but oh how God has restored me and healed my broken heart, he has truly been my refuge and strength thru it all, and he will do the same for you, I have learned that our trials bring us to our knees to lean on God more then anything on this earth. He Loves us sooo much and desires to make himself our everything. My prayers are with you during this time of suffering, and just like Jeremiah 29:11 says He knows the plans he has for you , plans to prosper you to have hope and a future , not of evil…God Bless you and keep you 🙂 and alway Trust in the Lord, lean not onto your own undrstanding in all your way acknowledge him, he will direct your steps.
Your Sister in Christ,
Tracy
November 5, 2012 at 11:26 am
Dale Ann
I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you and thank you for sharing your pain. Your message was a letter from Jesus to me. I also am going through an attack on my marriage. I am truly in awe when the Lord lets me know that he is hearing my prayers and that I am not alone in this brutal attack of the devil. So again thank you for sharing your pain and being a vessel for the Lord. Dale Ann
November 5, 2012 at 12:18 pm
Larry Who
Divorce stinks! The pain is terrible and your family suffers. For all this, I pray the Lord comforts you right now.
Katherine Kuhlman often said, “I remember the day, the hour, and the place where I died.” She was referring to her divorce from the man she loved with all of her heart.
But before her divorce Kuhlman was sitting on the sidelines, playing second fiddle to a man who used her anointing for his own life. Her calling was dead.
After the divorce, the anointing of God fell on her. The miracles and the people she touched are still being talked about today. Her legacy is unbelievable for the generations which followed.
So, like Kuhlman, I feel this is your season. And the word which echoes in my heart is: reset.
God has hit the “reset” button in your life.
God bless you.
November 5, 2012 at 12:20 pm
Gilbert Go
Very true every word you’ve just said Marriane,God is not slow on keeping His promises for us, two powerful scriptures that I use in my everyday living; one is John 16:33 “I have spoken you these things, so that in Me(Christ) you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” and 1 John 5:4 “For whoever is born of God is an overcomer of the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith.” in this world we will have tribulations, but Christ as He died and resurrected, He is our guaranteed success over any challenges that we may come to face; whether it is just a simple problem or a crisis. We are not designed to solve a problem because problems are supernatural, and only The Lord Who has all the supernatural powers can fix problems, as The Lord declares in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know My plans to prosper you, and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.” a very strong promise of our Beloved God for us in Christ Whom He has given authority in all of us. Most of the times when we come to face a problem, we thought that we were being punished, but actually we are not. It is the enemy who causes us all the tribulations in our lives and not The Lord, it is written in John 10:10 “The thief (satan) does not come except to steal, kill and destroy. But I (Jesus) have come so that they (us) may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly (showered with God’s love, peace, joy, health, success, prosperity, problem-free, nothing to worry about, and bound in God’s favors and unmerited favors).You are Blessed and Highly Favored as always, Marriane.
November 5, 2012 at 12:32 pm
Debbie Pinky Briley
I am praying for the rainbow to come soon for you! I too have a cat name Bella. Same color as your Bella. She is just kitten! it has been a little over a year since my husband left me for someone else. The pain was so great Your messages helped me each day. I am praying so very hard for you. Together all of our prayers the light will come soon!
November 5, 2012 at 12:33 pm
Praying with you.
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November 5, 2012 at 12:55 pm
barbara
Hi Marianne You are a treasure! What a timely message you sent me this morning. I have been going thru one of the worst times in my life. I am also a lover of animals and that is wahat got me into the “hot water” I am in, from protecting and defending feral cats that I have been feeding for 7 yrs. My luck was to encounter a pathological, ex felon cat hater in my building where I love. he has made my life miserable for 5 yrs. I have never been so harrassed, stalked, terorrized with eviction in my life. He has lied and the Rental management believed him and his gang of 2. When I say , he has made my life miserable, that is no understatement. God provided a way and has saved me from his vile attacks and although we have lost a few from poisoning, we still have 14. God is great and I have missed and loved these creatures (God’s creatures) for years and he threateded to have them all euthanized along with the Rental Management. Just two months ago, a dog was sic’d onone of my sweet ones, and had it’s neck tore out. I was sick! Then two weeks later another was poisoned and I managed to get him to the Vet’s before he died and saved his sweet life. I am hoping Our Lord and Savior comes back soon Barbara Yabor XOXOX The peace of the Lord to you and your wonderful , loved Bella. You will be with her in Heaven, she will be with you in HEAVEN In just a little while I have 2 black cats and love them so much too, you were the best Mom to her, i am sure of it!
November 5, 2012 at 2:56 pm
Linden Wolfe
Marianne,
I think I understand some of what you are going through, being the victim of divorce myself (divorce only has victims). It is terribly painful and, I think, can cause a form of temporary insanity. Or at least it did with me. You, however, remain rooted in God’s Word and His promises. You are so right, He will never leave nor forsake you. The danger is when, in our confusion and hurt, we leave and forsake Him. But here you are encouraging others like me – so it’s gloriously clear that you know that and are clinging to Jesus.
I’m careful not to flippantly use cliches (like He’s got someone better for you), claim I to totally understand what you are going through, or even throw Bible verses around as if they are some kind of injection that makes it all go away. This is terrible but, as much as I don’t know His plans and purposes in all of this, I do believe He is still in control, still loves you, and is orchestrating something wonderful for you. In spite of, and maybe even through, the tears.
In times like these all I know to say is that we love you, we are praying for you, and we are here if you need us.
“Blessings” by Laura Story
We pray for blessings
We pray for peace
Comfort for family, protection while we sleep
We pray for healing, for prosperity
We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering
All the while, You hear each spoken need
Yet love is way too much to give us lesser things
‘Cause what if your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You’re near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise
We pray for wisdom
Your voice to hear
We cry in anger when we cannot feel You near
We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love
As if every promise from Your Word is not enough
All the while, You hear each desperate plea
And long that we’d have faith to believe
When friends betray us
When darkness seems to win
We know that pain reminds this heart
That this is not our home
What if my greatest disappointments
Or the aching of this life
Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can’t satisfy
What if trials of this life
The rain, the storms, the hardest nights
Are your mercies in disguise
November 5, 2012 at 3:13 pm
Anonymous
I’m praying for you Marianne. For the Holy Spirit’s peace, comfort and for Abba Father to wrap His arms around you.
Keep walking forward and know that He is with you in every, single dark place!
November 5, 2012 at 6:17 pm
Claudia Paradise
God Bless you always Marianne! As I too am going thru the same situation as for being separated from my husband of 4 yrs and he refuses to speak to me! I felt so lost and alone until I gave my troubled marriage to our Lord! I have been in such peace since them but I do understand the loneliness we sometime feel…as it is human nature! I will pray for you and know GOD will always keep you in his light! Keep the faith my friend in Christ!
November 5, 2012 at 10:02 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Doreen, I will be praying for your situation too. It is a tough place to be but as you know, our God is with us in every storm we face and he will give us direction and take us where he has planned. God bless you, Doreen. I thank you for commenting.
November 5, 2012 at 10:04 pm
Marianne Lordi
My dear Eugenia, You have been through so much in your life! I sponsor a child in Rwanda and I know how volatile that country can be. I am glad you are in the UK. Thank you for your kind words and for caring! Everyone has been so kind and I am humbled by it all. God bless you, Eugenia. I will be keeping you in prayer also.
November 5, 2012 at 10:06 pm
Marianne Lordi
Tamara, How nice of you to stop and comment! I really appreciate the reminders of God’s truth and just for you being so nice. Thank you for your kindness.. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you.
November 5, 2012 at 10:11 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Cindy, I am truly humbled by your encouragment and kind words. This has been extremely hard on me but if my God is with me, I can stay in the race despite how weary I feel now. You have given me a lot to think about. I thank you for to tell me that my ministry will go on even stronger. That was my greatest fear – that others would see me as a failure. I am nothing more than a sinner saved by grace but my Lord has chosen me to write for him. I want to do that. I need his strength. I really appreciate all that you said. You are a true sister and friend! God bless you, Cindy!
November 5, 2012 at 10:12 pm
Marianne Lordi
allyouneed, you have blessed my days with your words. I am indeed blessed that God has put so many kind people in my life. Thank you for caring enough to stop and give me hope!
November 5, 2012 at 10:16 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Alan, I am so happy to hear that you were comforted by this messages God gives to me. And you are right, I must never feel alone for look all that God has given to me to stand by me. It is a tough time for me now but I know that God truly does have plans for my future. I pray for my husband’s salvation. There is nothing else I can do but I do pray for him. It brings such comfort to me to hear you tell me that I am being prayed for, too. God bless you, dear brother. You have helped me.
November 5, 2012 at 10:20 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Glenn, how nice of you to care enough to bring me such a good reminder of Christ’ love. I have been in pain for quite some time over this but God has never left my side. All that I write, my brother, comes from a heart that has seen the mercy of Christ through all of my pain. I speak the truth in everything that I write. You have blessed me today. You don’t know how much that means to me!
November 5, 2012 at 10:23 pm
cindyhfrench
Marianne, would you have ever believed that you would have had such an outpouring of love and prayers for you as you have had today? I know that God is going to use this mightily in your life and the lives of so many others. I hate that you have to go through it as i said this morning, but oh there are such blessings sometimes in being poured out as a drink offering..and that is what He has done with you.
If you ever need an ear or anything, please don’t hesitate. You certainly were there for me in the beginning an encouragement to be sure. I would love to return the favor.
November 5, 2012 at 10:25 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Susan, you brought me to tears with your kind words and love! How can I not know that my God will see me through this pain when he sends me his best people to stand with me! I truly appreciate all that you said, Susan. Even though I know that I am not alone, it sure helps to hear that God’s people are praying for me and that they care. It means so much, so very much. I will never forget all who took the time to tell me that they care! God bless you my dear friend and sister!
November 5, 2012 at 10:27 pm
Marianne Lordi
Kathy, you have faced a painful trial too. You are so faithful to think of others who are going through what you did. That is the sign of a true servant of Christ. God be with you, dear Kathy. I am grateful that you cared enough to stop and encourage me!
November 5, 2012 at 10:32 pm
Marianne Lordi
Dear Tracy, you are such a blessing to me! Despite all you have been through, you still can trust in your God and know that his love will never fail you. Just like you, I am drawing close to Jesus. He is the One who has never failed me or betrayed me. My weakness is now made strong by his power that lives in me. I am so grateful for all that he has done and all the wonderful people he has sent to help lift me in this time of trial. I appreciate what you have said. It gives me hope to see how God has taken you through it all. May God bless you for the kindess you showed to me. God has the plan for both of us, dear sister. I will keep you in prayer, too.
November 5, 2012 at 10:34 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Dale Ann, I am sorry that you also are being attacked in your marriage. The enemy wants to take us all down. I will keep you in prayer, my sister. As I said in my message, God still has a plan no matter what happens. The best part is that he has a plan for our victory. Even though it is hard for me to understand that now, I know that to be true. You are not alone, dear sister, and neither am I. Stay in peace knowing that God is still sovereign over everything we face.
November 5, 2012 at 10:38 pm
Marianne Lordi
Larry, you have always been such a source of encouragement to me. You just don’t know how much you have blessed my life and I thank you for that. You always felt that God was leading me to something higher. I am going to stay close and listen to what he would have for me to do. I would appreciate your prayers that I may stay focused and keep my eyes on Christ alone. My fears and uncertainty vanish when I remember how he has helped me in the past. Thank you for being a true friend and brother, Larry. That means a lot to me.
November 5, 2012 at 10:41 pm
Marianne Lordi
Gilbert, you brought some joy into my life with your reminders to me of God’s love. The enemy does come to kill, steal and destroy but in truth, the enemy cannot have one thing that Chist has given to those who belong to him. He is our guard and our protector. I remember that when I am feeling vulnerable. I am blessed by your encouragemnt and concern. You have blessed me today and I pray for God to bless you also!
November 5, 2012 at 10:44 pm
Marianne Lordi
Debbie, I am so sorry for what you had to go through. It means so very much to me that you are praying for me! This just shows me that the love of God is being given to me through the prayers and love of everyone who cared enough to help me through this pain. I am blessed by you, dear Debbie. I will never forget your kindness.
November 5, 2012 at 10:44 pm
Marianne Lordi
Praying with you…..Thank you!
November 5, 2012 at 10:48 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi barbara, it is always so nice to meet another animal lover. I am always rescuing and helping animals who have been abused or sick. Proverbs tells us that a righteous man cares for the needs of his animal. That comes from the word of God! God bless you for all that you do. I will be praying for the work you do. I am glad there are those like you who take the time to care for the least of God’s creation.
November 5, 2012 at 11:01 pm
Marianne Lordi
Linden,
Your prayers and support mean so much to me. You have always been there as a friend and I really appreciate you! You seem to have the right word to say when I am struggling. What a blessing you have been to me and a true gift from God. Thank you, Linden. You are faithful on your blog to always speak the truth in love and your teachings are wonderful. I love that “Blessing” poem. It kind of puts my troubles in the light of an eternal perspective. I copied that poem and will use it as a reminder.
Thank you always for being a friend and for caring. Your kindness will not be forgotten.
November 5, 2012 at 11:02 pm
Marianne Lordi
Anonymous, thank you for praying for me. You have touched my heart with your kindness.
November 5, 2012 at 11:05 pm
Marianne Lordi
Claudia, I appreciate your prayers for me during this time of heartache but I will also be praying for you and your situation. I am glad that you are in peace now. This world is not our home. We must keep our eyes on kindom matters for that is all that will last. I am so glad God brought you here. You understand what I am going through. God bless you, dear sister.
November 6, 2012 at 12:20 am
Gilbert Go
Hi Mariane, I have some more scriptures of encouragement for you today, and these are strong promises of encouragement from our Loving and Beloved God for us…As we believe in the Holy Trinity of the God the Father, Son and Spirit; God continues to unveil the beauty of His love and his kingdom on earth through Christ His glorious Son for us to believe, see, and experience the true heaven on earth, and this what makes us His righteous. And believe me, Christ is all we need, for the life and peace of God the father planned for us was given to us through Christ. A life that is perfect without lacking of anything as said in Ephesians 1:23 “For the fullness of God in Christ was given to fill us (His church) everything in every way.” now as being said, we are being made righteous to God in Christ and now the favor and gifts of God abounds us each and every single moment of our lives as being said in 2 Corinthians 12:9 “For the grace of God is sufficient for us, and His power is made perfect in our weaknesses.” and verified in Psalms 5:12 “For You, O Lord, will bless Your Righteous; You will surround them with your favor as with a shield.” I am so blessed with these Scriptures everyday, and I want to share them to every one because everyday we are bound in our Beloved God’s grace and favor. You are Blessed and Highly Favored always Mam Mariane.
November 6, 2012 at 1:23 am
Marianne Lordi
Thank you, Gilbert. Every one of God’s promises reveals his love for us. That is the reason we can have hope no matter what we face in life. We always have victory when we belong to Christ.
November 6, 2012 at 2:30 am
the warrioress
I’m so sorry.. I will pray for you and your husband. I’m also terribly sorry about the loss of your Bella. I have fifteen pets of my own and they too are like my family. There is little that hurts more than to lose a member of our family. Please trust in God. I know you know He is not going to let you down. You will come through these storms the stronger for them. Praying for you with my full heart, Marianne. God bless.
Adrienne
November 6, 2012 at 2:34 am
Gilbert Go
You are very welcome Mam Mariane,I want to share The Lord’s leadings and revelations to me through His Son our Lord Jesus, through the promised scriptures. Each day we are so blessed and favored in many ways and this is why I walk by faith and not by sight. You are very true of what you’ve said, that everything in this world lasts only for a short time, but everything that is from our Beloved God lasts forever and ever. Trust and submit fully to The Lord and lean not on thy own understanding and strength, and it is sure as heaven that all of God’s promises we will begin to experience in God’s perfect timing…And I declare in Jesus name that God’s perfect timing to come very very soon. You are blessed and highly favored always Mam Mariane.
November 6, 2012 at 3:15 am
Val
Marianne,
Be strong I’m the Lord! Remember the story of Job, he went through a period of suffering. But from the very beginning in the darkest moment, he kept staying in faith and believed that God will turn his situation around. In the end God delivered to him more than double. Stay in an attitude of faith. God promises that good thing will come to you. God also promises that He will give you beauty for your ashes so let go of your disappointments and simply trust in The Lord that He has plan for you. With regards to your Bella, do not worry. God has a special place for her in heaven and someday when you go up to heaven to be with the Lord she will be there to greet you.
November 6, 2012 at 9:34 am
Leandi
Dear Marianne
About a year and a half ago I emailed with you, telling you about my failing marriage and divorce. I got divorced 3 days before Christmas. That was the worst Christmas ever. So today I want to tell you, never stop praying and believing. Our God is wonderful and faithful. After years of praying, crying and doublemindedness, anger, falling on my knees again, God came through for me. One thing I prayed over and over again was for God to forgive my unbelief and that I do believe. It’s with great joy in my heart that I can say my husband has been back for 4 months now and we are getting remarried! He told me over and over he will never come back and does not love me But God! I kept the faith that no matter what my husband said, God hates divorce and will bring him back. I’m embarrassed to say now I even went and bought a wedding dress in faith in spite of my husband’s hurtful words. I’m so grateful and I thank God everyday for this miracle. My husband is a changed man and I will continue to pray for his salvation. So when your husband say he doesn’t love you, it’s not him but the enemy speaking through him. God can and will restore families! You are a wonderful person and I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. Lots of love to you. L ( South Africa)
November 6, 2012 at 9:41 am
Steven Sawyer
Excellent. And so appropriate for us to remember each and every day. Thank you for sharing.
November 6, 2012 at 9:41 am
Marianne Lordi
Thank you, Adrienne! Yes you do understand how pets can become part of our heart. This is breaking me as my struggles seem overwhelming now. The good thing is that I am never alone in my pain. Christ is with me and it is only by his power that I continue in the race he set for me. I really appreciate that he sends compassionate people like you to help lift me. You have brightened my day today and I pray that God blesses you for that. The fact that you are praying for me humbles me in gratitude. Thank you, dear sister. You touched my heart today!
November 6, 2012 at 1:11 pm
Steven Sawyer
Excellent words of encouragement and comfort.
God bless you.
November 6, 2012 at 1:22 pm
Cry and Howl
I’m a sincerely surprised and tremendously saddend by your situation Marianne. You’ve said all the right things and I know you’re sincere and that you are strong in your faith, yet I know that doesn’t ease the pain. I know, because I’ve been there … very big time. I know the pain I went through was a pain worse than death and I lost everything to the point of literally being homeless because I had stopped caring about anything. A struggle in my life that lasted nearly a decade.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Personally, and I’m not trying to be out of line here, I can’t see anything in you not to love … but I guess we’re all wired differently.
Even after decades of reading, studying God’s word, praying, fasting, witnessing to people, when I hear of good people like you going through something like this, comforting words are difficult to find.
I’ll just leave you with this … pray … then listen. Be still, and the spirit of God
will lift you up.
Your friend,
Steve
November 6, 2012 at 6:56 pm
Marianne Lordi
Cry and Howl, hi Steve, I didn’t know you went through all that but I know what pain you surely had. It is one of the toughest battles we ever face. It is like a death. I really thank you for your care and concern with all I am going through. You really really brightened my day with your words and even made me smile! I can’t tell you how much your encouragment means to me. I appreciate you, my friend!
November 6, 2012 at 6:58 pm
Marianne Lordi
Steve Sawyer, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment. It was so kind of you!
November 7, 2012 at 3:33 pm
Cry and Howl
I don’t mean to bother you Marianne; just stopping by to check on you.
Someone asked me a while back why Italians didn’t like Jehovah’s Witnesses.
At first I was stumped. Then I realized that Italians don’t like ANY witnesses! (just a joke dear)
I pray things get better for you soon.
November 7, 2012 at 11:25 pm
Marianne Lordi
I laughed. Italians have a sense of humor! And thanks for caring- God puts the nicest people in my life and you are one of them!
November 9, 2012 at 4:26 pm
anonymous
Marianne Lordi
My heart goes out to you and I will pray for you. I am a mother of two and undergoing divorce proceedings right now. My husband is having an affair with his first love of 25 years ago. It is one of the most painful and devastating things that can happen to anyone but with the help of Christian friends and being surrounded by loving families and of course the strength and mercy of God and the Holy Spirit, me and my 2 boys we’re able to persevere, live each day as a blessing and comfort ourselves with our love and knowing that God loves us and he will never leave us. It hurts me so much thinking how this will affect my children emotionally and what might come of their futures. I know God is with me and he has plans for me and my children just like Jeremiah 29:12 and Matthew 10:37-38 it really helped me a lot especially when I’m focusing on my failed marriage and my children’s future that I shouldn’t be, that Christ calls us to a higher mission than to find comfort and tranquility in this life. Love of family is a law of God, but even this law can be self-serving and an excuse not to serve God or to do his work. To take up our cross and follow Jesus, we must lay down other cares and priorities, only then can we pick up our commitment to Christ. We should be totally committed to God and willing to face anything. Even suffering and death for his sake. I know and pray that you will stand the trial as a Woman of faith. A determined woman of God.
November 10, 2012 at 8:24 pm
chaku letluv
Thank you, I agree wholeheartedly that the lord our God won’t leave his children in a time of need, but he has given us power through the blood of jesus to call things that be not, as though they were. Trust him to guide you to your destinations always. And strifes and worries will be washed away, In Jesus name we pray, Amen.
November 11, 2012 at 9:06 am
Cry and Howl
I was just thinking about you this morning Marianne and had to stop by and check on you. I surely hope you’re doing better.
You know how the current administration grounded the space shuttle program. Well, I heard that the Russians were getting ready to set foot on Mars! I was telling a little blonde lady about this and I mentioned that China was also ready to visit Venus.
She told me that she and her friends we going to the Sun! I told her she can’t visit the Sun … she would burn up. She just looked at me and said “Duh! … We’re going at night!”
Heh Heh … gotta love those blondes!
Laugh just a little … the Lord loves you Marianne.
November 11, 2012 at 12:14 pm
Marianne Lordi
You had me going for a minute, Steve! But I needed the laugh! I appreciate you cheering me up- had a bad day yesterday. I have to stay focused on the truth. The Lord does love me – but it was good to get that reminder. Thanks!!
November 12, 2012 at 8:25 pm
Marianne Lordi
chaku letluv, thank you for stopping by giving words of strength and affirmation. God never leaves his children in each struggle we face. He draws nearer to us and helps us bear our burdens. What a great God we serve.
November 15, 2012 at 12:32 am
Ken
Marianne, I will keep this in my prayers. My heart breaks when I hear of broken marriages.
When I was going through the grieving process with my wife’s passing, I held tightly onto scripture and Jesus. He gave me strength to go on every day. My pain was beyond what words could describe, yet I experienced a peace which surpasses all understanding. That peace was from my close presence with the Lord. Everyday I would take my Bible and go to a park sit on a park bench under a tree. I would read, pray, cry and praise God. Every time I would be refreshed with strength.
Your friend,
Ken
November 15, 2012 at 7:32 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Ken, it is so nice to hear from you again, my friend! I think about what you went through and it comforts me to see how God tookyou through your pain and gave you a future despite the fact that your wife was taken.
I am doing just what you did. In spite of my brokenness, I am clinging on to the word of God and his strength. I have no strength of my own right now. I am emptied of any power and the hope I have is only from knowing that Jesus will not let me be destroyed by this. He is taking me alone one day, one minute and one second at a time. He is with me. That is all that matters to me now.
God bless you, my brother. I am happy for your new life knowing that God is with you and using all that you went through to help others.
November 19, 2012 at 7:05 pm
yliriano
I came across your site as I typed in the words broken hearted into my search engine. Though I cannot imagine the pain of a divorce I am currently dealing with the end of a relationship and I have found solace in your piece. I am newly discovering Christ in my life and I want to thank you because I believe he has led me to your page. I pray for your strength and courage and I am grateful for your sharing.
November 20, 2012 at 11:09 pm
Ken
Hi Marianne,
I thought I would stop by and see how you are doing.
24 “The Lord bless you and keep you;
25 The Lord make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
26 The Lord lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace.”’ Numbers 6:24-26
I hope and pray you have a blessed Thanksgiving. I know you are going through some things right now, but the Lord is with you.
I have you in my prayers.
Ken
November 21, 2012 at 12:05 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Ken, I really appreciate you. Thanks for checking back and for giving me those encouaraging verses. It has been so hard on me but the fact that you are praying for me humbles me and I am so grateful to you. God will get me through this. He will heal my broken heart. God bless you, dear brother. you brightened my day.
November 21, 2012 at 12:11 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi yliriano, I am glad that God brought you here, dear sister. I know you are struggling with a broken heart and it can wear you down. I pray that you remember as I must that our pain is allowed for a purpose and only for a time. Through it all, the strength of God will lift you up and bring you new hope and a future with promise. I don’t have to see God’s plan for my life to believe that he has a perfect will for me. The bible tells us that tears last for a night but joy comes in the morning. Eventually, there will be a time for your tears to end and for joy to fill your heart. No heartache will everf be bigger than God’s power to heal completely.
I thank you for your prayers and I will be praying for you, also. Please stop back or email me and let me know how you are doing. God is with you. Let him bring you peace.
November 21, 2012 at 2:04 am
Ms. Wilson
Oh how I needed every word you wrote. Oh how I will read it again, and again, because your words bring me great comfort. What a blessing your message was for me and certainly to other believers who are reading. May The Lord comtinue to bless you! May The Lord lift you up and grant every desire in your heart according to His will. Please email me. I would love to speak to you. God bless.
November 21, 2012 at 2:11 am
Marianne Lordi
Ms. Wilson, It is so good that God spoke to you through my message and comforted you. We are all going through trials of every kind in this world but as long as we can understand that God has a plan to take us through every one of them, then we can have peace in spite of it all. My struggles are God’s tools to strengthen me and bring me closer to him. As painful as it all is, I know my Lord is with me.
God bless you, dear sister. I am here for you any time you want to talk.
November 25, 2012 at 6:18 pm
Michelle
Hello,
I didnt see your name on your post. I liked your message of hope and i so desperately want to believe God has a plan for my life but its hard to still believe that after everything.
You say you are going through a marital
Breakdown- ive been there it was devastating. I got through it though only to have my exhusband fighting me for full custody of my kids 6 years later. The pain from the thought of losing my kids is 100 times worse than losing my marriage. I cant bare the thought.
I keep reading God has a plan and he will see us through anything but this, this is too much for me. I do not want God to “get ms through” this, i want to retain the 50% custody i already have. Im a good mom and i know my faith is not strong enough to see me through if i lose my kids. Im trying not to focus on that but its a real possibility. The pain you feel from a pending divorce is real but is nothing compared to losing precious children. They are only children once.
November 25, 2012 at 7:57 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Michelle,
I agree with you that to lose your children would be worse that a divorce but they are both painful. Your husband may be fighting you for custody but if you have been a good mother to them, he will have a hard time. The courts are not so quick to relinquish a mother’s custody as it may seem. I will be praying for you,my sister. Remember that God has the plan. If you don’t know your God, how can you trust him in the battles that you face? You have to meet him in his word each day and let him show you his power and strength. You have to take one step at a time in areas of trust and surrender your doubt to him. But first and most imporatantly, you must have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I pray that you do, Michelle. He is the one who has authority over where those children end up. If you have him living in your heart, he will do the fighting for you in the battle. Trust him, Michelle. He is not going to fail you like everyone else has.
I am here whenever you want to talk. You are not alone. Be strong and keep your eyes on Christ.
November 26, 2012 at 11:45 am
Ipsa Basu
Hi..
I have been going through a tough time since 2 years. But there are other problems that add up to it. It’s making me suffer more. I searching for some peace…that’s when i saw your post. Don’t worry..everything will be alright. I will pray for you too. Just be strong and keep on having this unfailing faith.
November 29, 2012 at 11:28 am
faithnhopealways
I am praying for you. I find it amazing that you are able to fight through such terrible pain and continue to write to help others because I truly believe that is what you are doing now. You are right when you talk about the amount of divorces and that means you are definitely encouraging many people and showing them how God will and does lead us through darkness in our lives. Thank you for sharing something so personal and being such an encouragement and inspiration.
November 29, 2012 at 9:28 pm
Marianne Lordi
faithnhopealways, thank you for stopping by and for commenting. In spite of my pain and struggle as my marriage ends, I want others to understand that your life is not over when one dream dies. God has his plan for our lives. He knew what we would endure in this life and he still has given believers a promise that he will cause all things to work out for our good. It might not seem like that now, but in time, I will see how God was with me through my pain. It was difficult for me to write of this but I felt that I must. If I cannot trust God to help me in all things, how can I tell others to trust him? Christ is true to his word and he has authority over all that we face. Nothing is going to destroy a believer who knows the power of his God!
God bless you, my friend. You have brightened my day.
December 3, 2012 at 8:27 am
godsfingers
Hi Marianne,
Continuing to pray for you and wanted to add this testimony for you and those reading. In 1989/90 I went through divorce and yes, it is awful and nothing God intends. After years of marital unfaithfulness, my now ex became pregnant, convinced she wanted to spend the rest of her life with him. She faked an abuse claim and I was thrown in jail and cast out of the home away from my children. I was left with no home, only 30% of my income and desperate, bouncing from one friends home to another.
In my crying out to God WHY, WHY, WHY and full of tears I was reminded what a friend told me. Read a chapter of Proverbs a day, there are 31 chapters, one for every day of the month. So on December 23, 1989 I read Proverbs 23, and found:
“17 Do not let your heart envy sinners,
but always be zealous for the fear of the Lord.
18 There is surely a future hope for you,
and your hope will not be cut off.”
What a blessing, my hope would not be cut off.
The next day in Proverbs 24(Christmas Eve) I found:
“14 Know also that wisdom is sweet to your soul;
if you find it, there is a future hope for you,
and your hope will not be cut off.
15 Do not lie in wait like an outlaw against a righteous man’s house,
do not raid his dwelling place;
16 for though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again,
but the wicked are brought down by calamity.
God said it twice, that means a lot, He said my hope will not be cut off.
I continued to read daily, still cast away from my home, my kids, my friends. Then on January 21 I was in Proverbs 21 and found what oddly looked like preparation and closure:
“30 There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan
that can succeed against the Lord.
31 The horse is made ready for the day of battle,
but victory rests with the Lord.”
When I got back to where I was staying after work I got a call from the mother-in-law asking me if I could go stay with the kids, Cathy walked out and left them. God restored me to my home, my kids, my beloved dog and cat 🙂 . She would still get her divorce, the guy would beat her up and then leave time and again, but God preserved and protected me. The very long (actually short) 7 week trip in the wilderness was necessary, but God was with every step of the way. Take courage.
Bless you
Dan
December 3, 2012 at 9:09 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Dan, I am so grateful that you took the time to leave that testimony of God’s faithfulness. It is like balm to my wounds. It has helped me to focus still on what is truth. God is with me. My pain will not last forever. He is working all things out for good and for his glory. And I have nothing to fear for he is my portion and my provider.
You have truly blessed me today, Dan. I believe that it was God who guided you to share your message for me and for anyone else who is struggling in their own trials. God has the plan. We sometimes look too hard at the storm we are in instead of the God who is over the storm. Thanks for reminding me of where my true strength lies. God bless you, dear brother!
December 3, 2012 at 6:08 pm
rascus48
Marianne…I myself understood it all very clearly….and found myself able draw strength from your words….thank you….always in my prayers…Frank
December 6, 2012 at 9:45 am
Love
What im going through is diffrient but i also belief in God, im from Nigeria i was thinking about my life the reason why life seems not to be fair with me having graduate and there is no job,have submited series of application including online forms yet everything prove abortive,im now in the middle of how im going to sustain i have an aged parent that need to be taking care of,sometimes i cried like i wont again,i do not kno what to do im so confused,it look as if every doors has close i prayed day and night for God intervention cos i have no one except him
December 6, 2012 at 9:50 am
Marianne Lordi
Thanks for your prayers, Frank. I keep you in prayer, also. Talk to you soon.
December 6, 2012 at 9:54 am
Marianne Lordi
Love, I am sorry for what you are going through. I know how tough it can be when finances are uncertain. It does seem that life is unfair but we know by faith that God is not! If you have a relationship with Jesus Christ, he has a plan for your life. You might not see it happening now, but he knows what you need and he has the power to provide for all that you need. You must stand in faith and believe. Anyone can believe in the good times. It is a true, faithful child of God who trusts him when all seems lost. You said you have no one wbut God. Well dear friend, God is all that you need. And he will not fail you. Please be sure to read your bible each day and let his truth fill you and give you strength. He knows your timetable and what you must have. He will help you. Keep your eyes on him and seek him out in his word. I will be praying for you. You are not alone, dear friend.
December 9, 2012 at 8:20 pm
David
Dear Love,
I understand how you feel because I too have been jobless for a year and just found a short term job last month.
Online system does not work. You need personal network. Have you discussed with your previous teachers, or some friends who have a job, or some richer people in church, and ask if they can introduce you a job?
In the meantime, are you able to get some income by e.g. selling things in a flea market, being a part-time secretary in your church, etc.?
I know it is tough. Once I got an interview but the fire alarm suddenly came on and everyone left the building and then they asked me to go home and I did not even have a chance to say anything. I asked God why such crazy thing would happen to people who believe in Him. Later I realized that God love me and want me to do great things for Him. These negative experiences are necessary for us to better understand the problem of sin and the importance of salvation.
I shall keep you in my prayers.
David
December 9, 2012 at 8:33 pm
David
Dear Marianne,
Just to let you know that I have been praying for you since February. I don’t know what to say even in my prayers sometimes I just keep quiet and feel sad. I know your husband loves money and self-esteem (self-righteousness) more than anything else and indeed he is unlikely to change his heart… but I pray that Jesus Christ gives you strength to endure this situation a little longer and also gives you light from His words to let you know the right direction to go.
David
December 10, 2012 at 12:02 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi David, I am so happy to hear from you again. My brother, no matter what happens in my life, Christ hold authority over it all. I have don’t have to see the future to know that he has a plan for my life. I have told you this so many times as you faced your own trials. You are such a bright, kind and loving man of God. He is with you even when it seems like you have no future. He is the source of your strength and mine. All that the enemy sends to destroy us is being fashioned by God’s hands as something good that will strengthen us in the battles of this world. If we could only understand that the victory is ours instead of looking at our dismal circumstance and believing we are hopeless. We have been made royal guards in an elite divine army that cannot lose. For that reason, as sad as it is for me now, I don’t look at my situation, I trust in my God. I know you understand what I am saying because we have talked about it many times.
Be strong, my brother, and keep your eyes on the prize of heaven in Jesus Christ. He is coming back very soon and he has his reward with him. All that you have that is good is from him. Your intelligence is a gift from him and he has the purpose for it. You were made for his glory and nothing is going to stop that from happening. That is the reason that Jesus told us that in this world, although we would have many problems, we can take joy knowing that HE has overcome the world. That is a truth that you must never forget.
I appreciate your friendship, my brother. I am praying for you.
December 12, 2012 at 5:08 am
Debbie
I have been going through a very difficult trial and came across your site. Our trials and suffering is different but the bottom line is trusting in God. I have financial, unemployed about to lose my home if God doesn’t help me problems. It has gone on for quite some time and I have never been in the position where I have to sell things just to keep the lights on. It seems as though problems aren’t getting better but worse. My faith is really being tested. Fighting fear, waiting on His timing and trust seem to be a constant struggle. I want the Lord to be glorified in my situation. I don’t believe it is the Lords will for me to be homeless and destitute. I have 2 cats that are like family to me and could not bear to be without them. I’m doing all I can to find a job and work with the mortgage company, bills but more and more things just keep getting heaped upon me.
I am encouraged by your faith. I am sorry for the heartbreak you must be going through about your marriage. Being a cat lover can understand how Bella adds to your hurt and loss. The last big trial I had my cat also had cancer and it was very difficult. So my heart and prayer go out for you. I know I am more sensitive to someone else who is suffering. The depth of your words show you have been through much. I know when we go though heavy anguish it enables us to be a comfort to each other.
May the Lord Bless you with His Best
December 12, 2012 at 8:07 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Debbie,
I am so glad that God led you to my site. I will be praying for you and for your financial situation. I also don’t believe that God wants you homeless and destitute. He has a plan, dear sister. I don’t know what it is but keep your faith strong and your eyes on Christ. Read your bible each morning and get his strength and guidance for the day. If you have been faithful to him, God will not let you down. It is scary, I know, because I am facing financial uncertainty also. It takes all of my faith everyday to trust and stand believing but I know that God has taken me too far to abandon me now. I trust him – even though I can’t see how he can help. I just know he has authority over it all.
I am here for you, Debbie. Please email me anytime you want to talk or need prayer. I will keep you lifted up. You are not alone!
December 12, 2012 at 9:43 am
Anonymous
Debbie, your trial really touched my heart. I too will be sending my prayers to you. As someone who is newly reaching out to God, I truly believe that he will save you.
February 6, 2013 at 11:53 pm
Debbie
Thank you for your kind words and prayers. Marianne, I am sending you an email. Thank you and God Bless
February 7, 2013 at 1:49 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Debbie, it was good to talk with you tonight. I pray that you will stay strong and not give up or give in to the lies from te enemy. Your situation is not hopeless and not impossible for God to help you with. He knows your pain and uncertainty. He will not fail you. I am praying for you, my sister. Remember that you are never alone!
February 7, 2013 at 1:51 am
Marianne Lordi
Anonymous, what a blessing you are to be praying for Debbie. Your kind words will help lift her up and I pray God’s blessings on you for taking the time to write and let her know you are praying for her.
February 7, 2013 at 2:31 am
Debbie
Thank you so much for praying and lifting me up Marianne. Talking with you was very refreshing to my spirit and encouraging. You are in my prayers as well. I am thankful God led me to your site and to a sister in Christ abounding in strong faith and unwavering trust that is utterly and wonderfully contagious. May God Bless you in a way that puts a song in your heart and a leap in your step!
March 6, 2013 at 9:25 am
SimplySage
God is with you and will bless you no matter what. Thank you for being transparent in the midst of difficulty and choosing to trust in God during the worst of times.
Peace,
Alexandria Sage
March 6, 2013 at 9:44 am
Marianne Lordi
Hi Alexandria, I appreciate you stopping by with a word of encouragement for me. Things have been tough for me right now, but as we both know, God is still with me and working it out for good. He will not fail me nor anyone who belongs to him.
You blessed my day, dear sister. Thank you and God bless!
March 13, 2013 at 10:23 pm
Rickie
Peace be yours in the name of the Most High God. May the Father bless you , may Jesus the Son embrace and hold you and may the Holy Spirit walk with you and comfort you as you endure your trials and grief. I am also grieving and know that the answer and the power to sustain us is always in our Heavenly Father. May His presence be stronger, clearer and more evident in your life than ever before and may He lift you up and sustain you through it all . In the beautiful name of Jesus, amen.
March 13, 2013 at 11:51 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Rickie, Yes, you are so right that the power to sustain us is always in our heavenly Father. He holds our future in his hands and he alone has authority over all the struggles and pain that we face. I thank you for your beautiful prayer. Stay strong, my friend, and remember that our problems only have the power to lift us in God’s perfect plan. They are used to transform us and give us a greater knowledge of God’s love and strength. I will be praying for you, also. You are not alone and all that you need, God will give to you. Be blessed, dear friend!
March 25, 2013 at 11:09 pm
Peter kashiba
I pray that the almighty father God, will in the name of jesus see you thru all your trials. I thought its only me going thru all the challenging times, but when i read and heard your touching situation, my heart just went out to you! May the Good Lord make a way for you. Amen.
March 25, 2013 at 11:52 pm
Marianne Lordi
Hi Peter,
I appreciate your kind words. Thank you for taking the time to stop and encourage me. I pray that your struggles will be lifted by God who has a purpose and a plan for all that he allows you to endure. We both know that Christ is at the center of our problems and he has promised to work them all out for our good. God bless you, dear brother.
April 27, 2013 at 11:05 am
Anonymous
God bless you.. May his strength see you through.. Because we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.(Romans 8:28). I am also going through a difficult time I was betrayed by my children’s father and he just seems to care less and less how he treats me and allows my son to also disrespect me. My hope and faith in The Lord will see me through there is no other way but his will so you are in my prayers. Gods plan is bigger and better than we have ever imagined.
April 27, 2013 at 12:23 pm
Marianne Lordi
Anonymous, thank you for your encouragement in this struggle that I am in. I will keep you also in prayer. It is too sad that in these days of deception, marriages are being targeted by the enemy in the hopes to take down God’s people and make them ineffective for the kingdom. My sister, you know that we are not alone in our pain. Our God does see where we are and he still has the plan for our future. God will see you through it and he will make you stronger for having gone through it. I pray also for your children. And please remember that you can always email me if you need to talk confidentially. I am here to pray with you. Be blessed, dear friend. God always has the plan.
May 29, 2013 at 4:27 pm
Billie Britton
I really enjoyed ur story and am sorry for what ur going through…I forgot what I was all upset about now.I’m also sorry to hear about ur pretty cat I too am an animal lover, I have a 99 lbs. Boxer dog. I’m sorry if this note sounds a little kooky but I have a cognitive dysfunction as the result of a stroke I had when I was 19..
Anyways men who needs them….
May 30, 2013 at 9:39 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Billie. I am so sorry that you are still dealing with the effects of a stroke you had at age 19. My dear friend, I will be praying for you. Whatever your need is, I know that God is the source of all things good. Christ did not suffer and die to give you a new life if he wasn’t going to be with you to help you through the struggles of this life. I will be praying, Billie. Read your bible each day. That is your strength. God bless you.
January 26, 2014 at 12:40 pm
Taylor
Every word you wrote spoke so clearly and directly my heart… I am in the midst of the unknown… Whether my husband will choose to stay or go… We are jr high sweet hearts, married almost 5 years now… Sadly in year 2 I made some awful decisions when I thought I wanted a divorce, decisions I’ve fully confessed to in November 2013. At 25, I am finally walking fully with The Lord, despite attending church weekly since I was 12. My heart is so overwhelmed. Obeying The Lord with my full confession has been my greatest leap of faith… 10 weeks into this new life, 3 divorce demand, 1 6 month separation agreement… I know the truth that he is with me but this is the scariest time in my life…. Please be praying for my marriage to be reconciled… For The Lord to fully reign in our home… Please pray…
Blessings,
Taylor
January 28, 2014 at 12:28 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Taylor, you can see that I understand what you are going through as I just experienced a failed marriage. Through the pain, God stood with me. Each day I had no power of my own to move on so he gave me his power. I was overwhelmed and broken and yet I knew that Christ was with me. He is with you, also, Taylor. I will be praying for God to heal your marriage and to reconcile you both in love. You must stay in the word each day. Read your bible because God will speak to you through his word and give you the wisdom and discernment that you will need. He knows your future, Taylor, because he is the one who gave it to you. I pray for your husband’s heart to be softened and that you both are renewed with the love that you once had for each other. I pray that your marriage will be stronger than it ever has been and that you both will keep Christ at the center of your marriage. I will be praying for you, my friend. And I am here if need to talk – just email me. I always have time for a friend in need and I care. There is reason for hope, Taylor. Christ died so that we can have joy in the midst of our pain. He has a way. Keep praying for your husband always. I pray that God will direct your steps in this matter. And I am here for you! Be strong, my sister. You will see the power of God working in your life.
January 28, 2014 at 1:43 pm
dawterofkingjesus101
hey… i would like to talK to you personally…i cAnt find your email
January 28, 2014 at 1:45 pm
Marianne Bernard
It is on the left top of my blog mbernard4477@gmail.com
February 20, 2014 at 3:00 pm
Ademola
I like u 2 pray for me ma
February 22, 2014 at 1:35 am
Marianne Bernard
Ademola, I am glad you stopped here and I will be praying for you. Whatever your need is, my friend, God has the answer and he will help you. God bless you.
March 8, 2014 at 5:54 am
Viviana
After reading this post and the comments and how you got through it with Christ I understand more.
God bless you for your trust and courage.
March 24, 2014 at 7:24 am
Marianne
You have my empathy and prayers. I hope that God heals this situation and brings out the best for you in the end. It really is hard sometimes, when you seem to be losing everything important to you. I have been alone for 40 years now, and God has been my strength. He is the bridegroom for all who trust in him, so we are never alone
March 24, 2014 at 12:04 pm
Marianne Bernard
thank you, Marianne. God is seeing me through it all It has been the most difficult time ever in my life but God is bigger and he still has the plan for my life. You understand what I am going through now I appreciate your friendship.
November 3, 2014 at 10:16 am
Anonymous
i know what you’re going through and God’s work is always in place…. please pray for me and my son I am an american married to a saudi and stuck here please pray for us to find a way out… thanks 🙂
November 20, 2014 at 10:44 pm
Marianne Bernard
May God protect my sister in Saudi Arabia and her son. I pray that God will open a door of safety for her to bring her out of that area. May the peace of God be with my sister and may he provide for her every need.Amen
June 17, 2015 at 1:56 am
Lissy Tropea
I pray that you have continued to find abundant peace and comfort through christ after your experience you wrote about in 2012. I just wanted to write a note letting you know that God has used you in a powerful way, even three years later your words have been uplifting to me during a time of heartache. Thank you for posting this and I pray for joy to be more evident in your life now than ever before.
June 17, 2015 at 10:58 am
Marianne Bernard
Hi Lissy,
Thank you so very much for taking the time to write and encourage me! I want to let you know that no matter how bad things got for me, I can honestly say that God was my strength through it all. My life did not end just because my husband left. God has continued to use me to help others as he helps me. I am not alone and I am not fighting my battles alone. I understand that in these ending times, I will have struggles to face but I know that they are all being worked out according to the purpose for which Christ allowed them in my life.
Lissy, I pray that you will know that truth also. You are not destroyed by the storms that you face in life. When you are with Christ, you are made stronger for having gone through them. I admit that I cried rivers of tears as I faced my pain but somehow I knew that I could not drown in the current of those tears. I knew my God was holding on to each one of them. Remember, my sister, God is grieved with you as you go through painful trials. It is just that he knows the plan that he has for you in the end. They are great plans, Lissy! They are eternal, divine, spectacular plans that no pain can destroy.
I am keeping you in prayer, my friend. You are a conqueror and all of your battles have been declared a victory by the blood of Christ! You cannot be destroyed. The only power your trials have is to lift you up not take you down! No trouble is too great for God to make work for your good. He knows who you are, where you are and how he is going to take you to where He is! He doesn’t fail. I guess once I truly understood that, I was able to hold on and stay focused.
God bless you, Lissy, for you have blessed me today!
August 15, 2015 at 4:08 am
Jon
Thank you for your inspiration and your willingness to do God’s will. I too am a servant of God, one who has has visions, seen angels and have faced demons. One who has been annointed by the holy spirit and have been called chosen by strangers I have never even met. Despite not knowing who I really am and my purpose in life, I try to humble myself, protect people, fight evil with good, return hate with love and serve God so that I may do his will. I am imperfect and am a sinner, but I still hunger for righteousness in hope that God will make me a deliverer. I too am going through the same thing with a divorce and all, only I am a Marine who recently got out and am struggling with memories of the war, I have a beautiful two year old daughter named Grace whom I love unconditionally and would die for and I fear what this is doing to her. I only want to be there for her, be a good father, and give her the happiness that she deserves. I never wanted any of this but I believe that it is happening for a reason, I believe that God has someone out there better for me, who is caring loving and kind, a woman who is unselfish in her ways, who doesn’t care what she gets out of this life but what she gives. A woman of God who will accept and love me for who I am. When I got back I had a problem with alcohol and with anger but never once did I take it out on them. I have been faithful and would have been until the and, but she was unforgiving, wicked and resentful. She didn’t like how the war has changed me, how I was constantly aware and on guard. How I would make sure the doors were locked at night just to keep than safe. She use to beat me, put me down with her words and tell me that I would never amount to anything. She was wrong. I have learned to love and forgive her and her family anyways. Ever since then, I have quit drinking and smoking and have taken to working out and getting in the best shape of my life. I have set goals and I know that in time I will be successful in life because I have put my faith, hope and trust in the Lord because it was written that whoever does so will soar on wings like eagles, we shall run and not grow weary and we shall walk and not be faint. God will never leave you nor forsake you, because he is a God of unfailing love. God is love and will never take you to a place that he will not see you through. Everyone must fall before we can learn how to fly. Without sorrow there would be no joy and without hate there would be no love. How would we know what it is like to be whole if we are not broken. Put your faith in God and he will make you whole again, because he is a God who loves all things, knows all things and fixes all things. To fear the Lord is to hate evil and to hate evil is to love what is good. Put your treasures where your heart is at and put your heart in the Lord. God knows you better than you know yourself. Pain is temporary and suffering is optional. Use your pain as fuel to drive you forward and whatever you do, do not look back. Instead, put your life in God’s hands and know that he has a purpose for your life. Everything happens for a reason.
August 15, 2015 at 8:45 am
Marianne Bernard
Hi Jon, Sorry for what you have gone through but as I said in my message, God’s plan for your life will never fail even when others fail or betray you. You keep your eyes on Christ. Read his word daily to get the strength and guidance you need for the day. Stay focused on the truth. God knows how to fulfill his destiny for you.
I am praying for you. Stay in peace.
September 10, 2015 at 6:47 pm
Jerry
Thank you again for your strength hope and love. I pray for you each time I read this. God can and will see us through…
…there is no greater pain than divorce.
September 10, 2015 at 8:09 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Jerry,
You are right that there is great pain in a separation or divorce, especially when you feel betrayed.
God always has a plan to not only take us through our difficulty but to strengthen us for where he is taking us. If you can let your struggles bring you closer to Christ, you have won the battle of this perishing world.
Jerry, I really appreciate you praying for me. It truly made my day. Sometimes when I feel alone, I will think of people like you who take the time to lift me in prayer. I also will keep you in prayer as I do all who come to my site. Thank you for blessing me today. Be in peace, my friend.
November 19, 2015 at 5:50 pm
Anonymous
With God all things are possible
November 19, 2015 at 7:06 pm
Jerry
Marianne
I am writing to you again to let you know your words are true. Although it has been difficult to feel the love of Christ, he has brought people into my life that have carried me through this difficult time. The battle still takes place on a daily basis and the enemy exists all around us. The pain I have today is immeasurable, although I know you and others have experienced this and have reached the other side. The memories and the longing for a quiet conversation with a loving spouse is something I should have cherished more but perhaps I was incapable of. Much like yourself and your divorce…it has only gotten worse as time goes by. The divorce is not final yet but the end is painstakingly close. My spouse continues to hide behind a mask of indifference which often is harder to deal with than the pain I hear and see in my children. God bless you for your strength courage and hope. You are truly a believer and worshiper. You are a warrior behind words. You and others like you bring visibility to God here on earth. I have gotten involved in support groups and the people involved provide courage and faith when I have had none. My feelings are not unique. I still have trouble on a daily basis believing my soon to be ex spouse could just leave…either from physical or emotional tye to another individual and throw all we have achieved together away. I pray your pain remains as pain and you are on a road that no longer turns to anger or fear
In Christ,
Jerry
November 19, 2015 at 10:10 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Jerry,
I am so glad you stopped and shared your feelings. I am praying for you, dear brother. I know how difficult it is for you now and how your heart feels literally broken in two. I have cried my share of tears.
What I want to share with you is that as difficult it is for you now, you are being watched over by Christ. He is not going to leave you. While that may be little solace for your pain right now, you are going to see his power as he takes you through this storm. I am praying with all of my heart that your spouse’s heart will be softened and that the love you both once had for each other will be renewed. I pray for a total restoration of your marriage with Christ at the center and his love filling you both. While the enemy continues on his rampage to destroy marriages, I know that the power of Christ can do great and mighty things to help. Please keep praying for your spouse to the end. Only God knows what is going to happen. Keep praying.
Also, please know that no matter what happens, you still have a future. Your life does not end because your spouse leaves. It may feel like it does but I assure you that the plan Christ has for you continues on in full force all the days of your life. He knows how to heal the brokenhearted and to protect your children. He can bring you peace despite the fact that it seems like your world is collapsing before your eyes. He has done that for me and he will do the same for you. One thing I know for sure is that you will not be destroyed by this trial.
I am praying for you, Jerry. I am here if you need to talk and you can email me if you want to talk privately. For now, be sure to read your bible each morning. You need to seek God’s voice in this matter. He will guide your steps and make straight the path he has for you. It is a shame that so many marriages end in divorce. My heart is with you and all those who are going through the same thing you are. There is a way above this, my friend. Let Christ show you his power to overcome. You are not alone and never are you without help. I am praying for you and your family. May God heal hearts and restore your marriage.
January 11, 2016 at 2:54 am
DMCampbell
You have beautiful faith. Thank you for sharing it with us.
If you have time to pray for me with all that you write and already in prayer do for others, I would love to have God answer your prayers for me.
I don’t know where you are, but I would love to talk to you on the phone, or by email, as I have something very private I would like to talk to you about.
sincerely, Donna
January 11, 2016 at 9:01 am
Marianne Bernard
Hi Donna,
I am sorry for your struggle but I will be praying for you. I know that if your trust is in Christ, he is with you through it all. He won’t leave you and his plan will be fulfilled for your victory. I will keep you in prayer and I want you to know that you are not alone. If you like, you can email me mbernard4477@gmail.com and we can start there. As bad as things may seem, God has a purpose for it and his promise is to be your strength when you have none of your own. That is exactly what he did for me and still does. He is faithful. Please read your bible every day to get his power and insight and to know the truth that sets you free. I am here when you need to talk. Just email me. God bless you, dear sister.
February 20, 2016 at 10:27 pm
SV
I’m going through a divorce now, my husband is trying to fight MW on splitting the equity in our home. Its not money I’m after, I’m just hoping to have something to start over with. I’m praying for god’s intervention and direction so that I can make wise choices. My husband too left, and our home is in both our names. Trying to rely on God, I m just scared.
February 20, 2016 at 11:11 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi SV, I know you are scared. Divorce shatters your life and leaves your future uncertain. As you see, I went through it also. It was during those times of uncertainty that I had only one hope and that was the Christ would stand with me. I was betrayed by my husband and now I had to face a future alone. But God was with me. Even though it seemed like I would not make it through it or that I would be crushed by it, Christ was there to intercede and provide for all that I needed. In time, he eased my pain and helped me to start again.
I am praying that God will reveal to you just how close he is to you. You are not fighting this battle alone. When your trust is in Christ, HE is your Defender. He is your Vindicator and he is your Victory. Keep praying and read your bible daily to get his strength and guidance. Trust him, dear sister. He is not going to fail you. You will get all that God had determined is good for you to get. You are not going to be destroyed financially or in any other way if you can hold on to the truth.
I am praying for you and will continue to do so. I am also here for you to talk to anytime you need a friend. Email me at mbernard4477@gmail.com We can talk privately. I know it is hard but you will not always have those tears. Christ has a plan for your life even through a divorce. Your life does not end simply because your husband leaves. I promise you that you will see the work of Christ if you continue to stand in faith and believe on him. You are not alone, my friend. You will be in my prayers. Please keep me updated. I care.
March 5, 2016 at 6:10 pm
Himmi
God has always stood by me, and I think I am a bad person. I learn lessons, then I forget them. I do bad things again.
Yet God supports me, and often shows miracles which strengthens my faith in him again.
Why is God nice to me? I am a bad person who cannot be improved.
March 5, 2016 at 7:02 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Himmi,
God’s love is not contingent on our works. He loves us in spite of our weaknesses. However, if you continue to rebel against him, even though he loves you and will help you, you will face a consequence of your actions. We are all sinners. If you truly were with Christ, you would not be sinning as you did before. I am praying for you, my friend, that you may know to surrender you ways and your will to Christ that he may do great things in you.
You are loved more than you know. Start today to seek his will in all that you do. Watch and see how blessed you will be.
April 25, 2016 at 1:41 pm
Dan
Profound message
April 25, 2016 at 6:53 pm
Marianne Bernard
Thank you, Dan. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting.
April 28, 2016 at 8:30 am
Jerry
God bless you Marrianne. You have been an inspiration to all of us for along time. Just a quick note to let you know I’m doing well and I pray for you everyday!
April 28, 2016 at 9:19 am
Marianne Bernard
HI Jerry, It is so nice to hear from you. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I pray that you stay focused on what is true and not to let the things of this world bring you down. Stay in peace, my dear brother.
May 8, 2016 at 8:47 pm
Anonymous
Hi Marianne, my name is Amanda and I am waiting for divorce papers my husband said should be coming in the mail. I have prayed for over a year for the healing of my marriage and I know God loves me and hears my cries but it is hard not to feel abandoned by Him. God seems so quiet, please pray for me. I want nothing more than to have my family back, we have a 3 year old son, Josiah. Please pray for me that I will see God in all my circumstances and know that he is in control and he cares for me. Thank you so much for your blog. My husband won’t reconcile with me and doesn’t communicate with me. He doesn’t want anything to do with me and it’s heartbreaking to say the least. Thank you again. Love Amanda
May 8, 2016 at 10:31 pm
Marianne Bernard
Dear Amanda, my heart is breaking for you as I know your pain. I find it so difficult to believe that a man can leave his wife and his 3 year old son without giving all that he has to make it work. He is buying into the lie of the enemy who has convinced him that there is a better life outside of his marriage. He will find out very soon what a bad choice he has made. There is a consequence for abandoning his family.
My dear sister, I am praying for you and I will keep praying. I know you prayed for God to save your marriage but as you know, he allows us all to have free will. What God will do for you is to continue his perfect plan for your life and he will protect you and your son. He will mend your broken heart. And your future cannot be stopped because your husband chooses to leave. Until the divorce is finished, I will keep praying for your husband to get to the end of himself so that he has nothing to do but look up to see the bad decision he is making. May God take hold of his heart and soften it to obey his will. I pray that sleep will not come to him as he lays his head down at night until he repents and returns home.
My friend, as you know I have been through the same pain of divorce. Betrayal is a difficult burden to bear. I do know from all that I have been through and all that is in God’s word that you will not be alone to fight this battle. I know that if your trust is in Christ, he is leading the battle against the enemy who wants to take you down. You will win, Amanda. It might not seem like it right now but God knows how to heal the brokenhearted.
I am here for you if you ever want to talk. Email me at mbernard4477@gmail.com There is always hope with Christ in your life. You cannot be destroyed. God is indeed in control and he has heard your cry for help. He will not leave you alone even though you feel alone. You don’t have to feel him or audibly hear him to know that he is with you. He grieves with you in your pain. He will help you! You won’t always have this pain.
I am here and praying for you. I do care. Stay in peace and please read your bible. Christ will comfort you through his word. He has a great plan for you and your son and nothing can stop it. Be in peace, dear sister. Help is on the way.
August 24, 2016 at 10:21 pm
Holly
Thank you for your kind writing. Bless you.
August 24, 2016 at 10:59 pm
Marianne Bernard
Thank you, Holly. And may God bless you and keep you in his peace.
December 18, 2016 at 4:36 am
Daniel
Hi. I am going through a financially difficult time. I’ve lost my dignity, patience, and confidence. I am praying to God asking to make something happen, but all I’ve received for last two years is his silence. Every time I speak with my father, we both end up getting furious and hurting each other with words. I know I am much more responsible for this situation than my father, but I cannot stand the look on his eyes and say things I should not say. And I live with this guilt everyday. I am afraid of God. And I need money to operate my shop and pay my bills. I drink everyday to feel better. I don’t know what God is going to do with me. Right now it feels like all is ever going to do with me for the rest of my life is to punish me for my wrongdoings.
December 22, 2016 at 11:42 am
Marianne Bernard
Hi Daniel, I have already begun praying for you and the struggle you are going through. You put his request on my prayer site and I have answered you there. Be strong, my friend. God is more than able to take you through this battle. Read your bible and stand in faith. God can do all things for those who believe.
December 29, 2016 at 9:16 am
Jazmin
Just came across this post in 2016. I related to every word that you said. As i am going through the same situation now, being rejected and abandoned by my spouse. And having to deal with the betrayal of his affairs. After trying everything, i came to the realization that i can not make someone stay or love me. Through this storm that I am facing I see God’s plan for me. I know this man was not good. Sometimes God turns the boat upside down because he knows we don’t have the strength to let go, or jump off and trust him. The process is painful though and I pray for continueing strength and the day where i can finally be healed…
December 29, 2016 at 10:52 am
Marianne Bernard
Hi Jazmin, I am so sorry for what you are going through. The enemy of this world is set on breaking up homes and destroying families as he knows his time is short. Sadly, many people get caught up in the lies of having something “better” outside of their marriage and they abandon their vow to God and to their spouse. As you know, I experienced that same attack. I prayed every day for God to change the heart of my spouse but it did not happen. I still encourage people to keep praying for their wayward spouse because you never know what will happen. When they make the choice to continue betraying their marrriage and choose to leave, still pray for them. God will not abandon you even if your spouse did. He will help you through the pain and the brokenness and restore your peace. He will be your guide and your strength no matter what is happening in your life. His plan for you does not die just because your spouse leaves. God knows what to do and he will be there for you.
Jazmin, I am praying for you, dear friend. I know your pain and I am with you. Please read your bible each day to get the power and strength that you will need for each day and to stand against the attacks of the enemy. God will reveal more of himself to you during your time of seeking him in his word. His strength is always there for you. Just trust and believe. Stand in your faith and stay in the race. God has a plan for your life. He will not fail to fulfill it.
I am here, my sister, if you ever need to talk. I care and I will be praying for you.
January 22, 2017 at 7:35 pm
Carolyn Pruitt
This is just what I needed to get me through this evening. You worded it perfectly, God is so good even through the tough times. My divorce is even tougher because of narsasism behavior. Even through this I know Gods got me. This reminds me that he is just and he will never leave me nor forsake me. I will pray for you as well.
Keep the faith
CeeJay Pruitt
January 22, 2017 at 10:55 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi CeeJay,
I am sorry for what you are going through. I am so glad you read my post. I know firsthand that God never changes and that his hope and strength are always with us. He knew what you would be going through even before he formed you in the womb. He is with you, dear sister. He has an unstoppable plan for your life whether your marriage works out or not. Your circumstance does not destroy the plan he has for your life. He will never leave you. I always take comfort knowing that he also grieves with us in our pain. Christ knows the outcome so he is not worried. For that reason, neither should you be worried. As uncertain as your future may seem now, be in peace knowing that God’s will shall prevail. He will make straight your path.
I also want you to know that my heart and prayers will be with you. I am praing even now. And anytime you need to talk, I am here. Just email me mbernard4477@gmail.com. I always have the time for those God brings to me. Stay in the word, my friend. Let God give you the strength you need each day as he speaks to you through his word. You are not alone and never are you without hope. God has the plan. I pray you know that in your heart.
February 13, 2017 at 12:06 am
Kathy
I want to say thank you so much for sharing your trails that is something hard to do especially in heartbreaking situations such as a divorce but thank you because as I deal with the aftermath of my divorce reading this had been so helpful and also thank you for speaking on it through trusting God and his words and may God bless you.
February 13, 2017 at 10:31 am
Marianne Bernard
Hi Kathy,
I am so glad God brought you to my site. I know how difficult divorce can be but I had to write to show that even in my pain, God was with me and took me through it all. I was not destroyed by my divorce. He is still using me to write messages of hope and hopefully I can help others with the truth of God’s word.
I am adding you to my prayer list. I pray for all who come to my site. I stand with you, dear sister, and I will be praying that you will have the peace of Christ as you allow him to fulfill his destiny for your life. As you know, he knew before you were born what you would endure in this life. His plan was with you from the beginning. If you are in Christ, you cannot be destroyed by the attacks of this world. You have been declared a victor through them all by the promises of Christ.
I am here if you ever need to talk. I care. You just need to email me if you want to talk privately. Even though it might not feel like it at this time, you will know one day how God never left your side and is with you right now. He has commanded his angels to watch over you. You belong to him. His love is enough. Be in peace, dear sister. Watch and see what your God is going to do for you.
May 24, 2017 at 12:06 pm
Diane Johnson
Thanks for sharing such a powerful message. Because no matter how life shows up, no matter the mountains, I have to climb, I know God will carry me through. And no matter what is devised against me, God is able to bring me through.
Thanks so much for making my day!!
May 25, 2017 at 5:58 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Diane, I can’t tell you how happy I am that you took to heart the message God gave me. The plan of God is in the good thing as well as the bad things, In ALL things he is working out his purpose for your life and when you put your trust in him, you can’t lose no matter what happens. Your pain and struggles are working out a divine eternal purpose. I don’t have to like all that God allows me to go through, but I know in my heart and by faith that he is with me and will not let me be destroyed by the things of this world.
I am praying for you Diane. May God continue to guide you and strengthen you in all that you face. You are never alone and never without hope. I pray that you understand that truth to the end of your days. Be in peace, my sister. You are in good hands.
May 20, 2018 at 8:13 pm
Vera
The only thing i can say right now is Thank you for those words of encourage so sorry for ur marriage and ur cat im going through relationship problem and hurt so much I knw God don’t put anything on me tht i can’t i knw i will get through still.Thank u thank u.
May 20, 2018 at 10:02 pm
Marianne Bernard
Hi Vera, Just want you to know that I will be praying for you and your relationship problem. I know that is always a heartbreaking ordeal. God knows what you can and can’t take. He knows how to work this out for your good if you can trust him. I pray you will read your bible a little each morning and let the truth fill you with the hope and strength you need to for each day. God’s promises are real and you can take him at his word. I am here if you need to talk. Just email me. And I will be lifting you up each night. Stay in peace, dear sister. Your God is with you.